Remembering Marty Weiner
Our life takes place on this three dimensional canvas we call life. We are artists of that, creators of that, we author it.
Life works in mysterious ways. This week’s experiment was going to be about letting go of “fixed plans.” Hours after preparing my post – suddenly – plans changed.
Last Thursday, I spent the afternoon and evening with my good friend and mentor Marty Weiner. Marty is a healer, a sculptor, and a philosopher – a lover of wisdom in the truest sense.
He’s helped thousands of people heal at all levels. Rock stars and even former Presidents regularly turned to Marty for insight on living well.Read the original post
Marty and I spent the afternoon shooting a video for Life Beyond Logic. In the evening, we caught up over dinner with his partner Dorothy.
Two days later, Marty was gone. He left this world on Saturday morning.
So I want to use this week to remember the legacy of Marty Weiner. I want to share two of the key lessons Marty taught me.
The first is about the nature of philosophy. Marty and I shared a love of philosophy. We both studied philosophy at Stanford and realized during our dinner conversation last Thursday that, despite our thirty-plus year age gap, we had taken classes from two of the same professors.
But Marty didn’t just study philosophy. He lived it. He helped me see that philosophy goes far beyond writing books and articles. Philosophy is also a moment-to-moment experience of living in the world. It’s a way of life.
In this way, Marty followed in the tradition of thinkers like Socrates, Montaigne, and Thoreau. For Marty, the ultimate philosophical act wasn’t figuring anything out rationally. It was living fully in the moment.
Here’s how he put it in video interview we did together last January (click here for the full video):
“There is a divine dimension, a divine place, here. Presence is here. You don’t do something to get there. You don’t meditate to get somewhere else. It’s not an activity like eating. The very act of living is a philosophical act. It’s not that philosophy’s conceptual. Actually, it’s the other way around: philosophy is very practical.”
Marty also taught me about what it means to be a healer. He liked to say that healing is about helping others see themselves as whole. This was Marty’s genius.
People would walk into his office with a long list of problems. They saw their body as flawed by broken bones, bad backs, tight necks, and other dysfunctions. Marty saw them as whole.
He didn’t try to correct, realign, or cure them. He healed by exploring the uniqueness and perfection of each individual. He treated each person who walked into his life like a beautiful flower, like a new rose or an orchid he had never seen before.
Where others saw disease, he saw perfection. Where others saw pathology, he saw possibility.
So if you walked in complaining about a strained lower back, Marty wouldn’t give you a diagnosis. He wouldn’t use a technique. He would try to understand your body and its possibilities. He would see you as a uniquely organized system. He would work within that system to ease your pain.
But the real gift from spending time with Marty wasn’t physical. It was deeper than that. He would offer you a glimpse at your own perfection. He would offer a reflection of your own wholeness.
Above all, Marty was a kind and compassionate human being. He touched my life and the lives of thousands of others.
I will miss him but will live with his insight and inspiration.
Feel free to share any thoughts or memories of Marty. On Tuesday, I will post our final video interview shot last Thursday afternoon.