Remembering Marty Weiner

Our life takes place on this three dimensional canvas we call life. We are artists of that, creators of that, we author it.

Marty Weiner,
Marty 2

Life works in mysterious ways. This week’s experiment was going to be about letting go of “fixed plans.” Hours after preparing my post – suddenly – plans changed.

Last Thursday, I spent the afternoon and evening with my good friend and mentor Marty Weiner. Marty is a healer, a sculptor, and a philosopher – a lover of wisdom in the truest sense.

He’s helped thousands of people heal at all levels. Rock stars and even former Presidents regularly turned to Marty for insight on living well.

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Marty and I spent the afternoon shooting a video for Life Beyond Logic.  In the evening, we caught up over dinner with his partner Dorothy.

Two days later, Marty was gone.  He left this world on Saturday morning.

So I want to use this week to remember the legacy of Marty Weiner.  I want to share two of the key lessons Marty taught me.

The first is about the nature of philosophy.  Marty and I shared a love of philosophy.   We both studied philosophy at Stanford and realized during our dinner conversation last Thursday that, despite our thirty-plus year age gap, we had taken classes from two of the same professors.

But Marty didn’t just study philosophy.  He lived it.  He helped me see that philosophy goes far beyond writing books and articles.  Philosophy is also a moment-to-moment experience of living in the world.   It’s a way of life.

In this way, Marty followed in the tradition of thinkers like Socrates, Montaigne, and Thoreau.  For Marty, the ultimate philosophical act wasn’t figuring anything out rationally.  It was living fully in the moment.

Here’s how he put it in video interview we did together last January (click here for the full video):

“There is a divine dimension, a divine place, here.  Presence is here.  You don’t do something to get there.  You don’t meditate to get somewhere else.  It’s not an activity like eating.  The very act of living is a philosophical act.  It’s not that philosophy’s conceptual.  Actually, it’s the other way around:  philosophy is very practical.”

Marty also taught me about what it means to be a healer.  He liked to say that healing is about helping others see themselves as whole.  This was Marty’s genius.

People would walk into his office with a long list of problems.   They saw their body as flawed by broken bones, bad backs, tight necks, and other dysfunctions.  Marty saw them as whole.

He didn’t try to correct, realign, or cure them.  He healed by exploring the uniqueness and perfection of each individual.   He treated each person who walked into his life like a beautiful flower, like a new rose or an orchid he had never seen before.

Where others saw disease, he saw perfection.  Where others saw pathology, he saw possibility.

So if you walked in complaining about a strained lower back, Marty wouldn’t give you a diagnosis.  He wouldn’t use a technique.  He would try to understand your body and its possibilities.  He would see you as a uniquely organized system.  He would work within that system to ease your pain.

But the real gift from spending time with Marty wasn’t physical.   It was deeper than that.  He would offer you a glimpse at your own perfection.  He would offer a reflection of your own wholeness.

Above all, Marty was a kind and compassionate human being.  He touched my life and the lives of thousands of others.

I will miss him but will live with his insight and inspiration.

Feel free to share any thoughts or memories of Marty.  On Tuesday, I will post our final video interview shot last Thursday afternoon.

Update: Marty Weiner Discusses Living Artfully
posted April 18, 2011 by Nate

This interview was shot less than two days before Marty’s death.    Marty offers us a final and beautiful insight into how he understands the art of sculpting and the art of living consciously.


  1. Nate-
    This is a wonderful, brave post.

    A beautiful tribute to your mentor’s legacy.

    I hope Marty’s friends find comfort in it.

  2. Cheryle Taylor says:

    Thanks so much Nate for sharing your thoughts of Marty and the legacy he leaves us, and likely many who never knew him.
    I feel immense sadness and also gratitude for having shared, explored and learned with this magnificent man.
    I viewed Marty as a man with great insight, integrity, kindness, aunthenticity, unpretentiousness and love.
    I miss you, Marty.


  3. Robin says:

    Marty will be missed, yet his healing continues….I read this today…and found it exactly what I needed in some personal healing I am approaching. Thank you for sharing.
    In Integrity and compassion

  4. Art Durand says:

    Beautifully said Nate. As I read it your words I could feel Marty, or really the Wholeness which Marty stood in and invited others to stand in, skip through, dance upon, realize. A piece of brilliance I heard him share one of the earlier times that has always stuck went something like this, “I have no problem with people holding onto me as what they believed their world to be began to fall away, eventually they’d look around and see I wasn’t holding onto anything myself”. Looking forward to what more you share from your ‘philosophers mind’ and open heart.

  5. Diana Chapman says:

    Nate you have articulated beautifully the gifts Marty’s world gave to mine and so many others. His death has somehow allowed me to experience a deepening of my own awareness of what he was inviting me to see and know from his vantage point. I am now aligned with the perfection and possibility of his choice to go and trust that he is creating exactly what he most wants.

    I am grateful Nate for the time that you spent with him and am happy to see how you have taken the baton he has passed to you and are now claiming your role in sharing the your authentic knowing with the rest of us.

  6. BJ Brown says:

    Nate, Thank you so much for this. How beautiful!
    I wish I knew more to say through my awe and sadness of his loss.
    Simply presence with this video gift, and his gifts.

  7. Stacy Barrows says:

    Thank you Nate, this was exactly what I needed right now. Beautifully done with such tenderness and love.

  8. Edward Yu says:

    Thank you, Nate. Profoundly and simply spoken.

  9. Jim Barnett says:

    Nate, thank you so much for sharing this. I am so grateful for the gifts Marty shared with me and your tribute to him.

  10. Linda Suchy says:

    Nate, What a beautiful and wonderful gift you have given us all,by capturing the essence of Marty . I appreciate seeing and hearing him, the passion and depth of his conscious living shines through and is a comfort to me as I grieve. Knowing Marty has created ripples in a pond-we in turn share our presence with all we meet and his legacy continues.
    Thank you.

  11. morgan mills says:

    Nate, Thank you for letting me see Marty one last time. I was so very blessed to have known, been healed by and was lucky enough to call him my friend. I am forever changed by having had him in my life.

  12. Peggy La Cerra says:

    Thank you, Nate, for capturing Marty on tape in his final days so that others who have never experienced this extraordinarily gifted human being might have the opportunity to listen to some of his wisdom, delight in the beauty he created, and experience his tender, gentle and loving nature. I was blessed to love and be loved by Marty for many years, and it is wonderful to be able to experience him again in your beautiful video portrait. With my heartfelt gratitude,

    Peggy La Cerra

  13. Jeff Hutner says:

    Thank you so much Nate for your intimate video…

    I had my last session with Marty three days before he left us and had another session scheduled for this Friday. Instead, I will be attending his memorial service.

    Your beautiful work captures the brilliance and wisdom of a great soul who served me and so many others in profound ways on multiple levels. His many beautiful gifts will live on in all our hearts and minds.

  14. Katherine McClelland says:

    Thank you Nate.

    This is a beautiful picture of Marty. This in juxtaposition with his death invites us all to wonder on the complexity of it all.

    Bless you on your journey of discovery,

  15. Gretchen Langner says:

    Thank you for this. I introduced myself to Marty via email on 3/11/11- having seen
    visuals of his sculpture and what now apparently is, his home and studio. Blessed be all things.

  16. meg farness says:

    Thank you for sharing this most touching post and video Nate. What a wonderful gift for you both to have had this time together .

  17. Jill Sosna says:

    Thank you so much Nate, for sharing this post of Marty and how he created in his life. So poignant and touching. What a lovely gift.

  18. Kelly Travers says:

    Thank you for posting this Nate. What a remarkable event that you captured his image and words so recently.

    I am a friend of Dorothy, and am deeply moved by what I see here. Blessings all.

  19. Elinor Silverstein says:

    Dear Nate, Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us. You are a wonderful human being, and Marty lives on in all of us thru many ways, including this medium in which you gave us the gift to share. We are all truly blessed.

  20. Karen Toth says:

    Thank you for sharing Marty’s wonderful spirit and energy !

  21. Istvan says:

    It is not easy to understand how and why he left this beautiful earth having all and more most of us dreams about and aspires for.

  22. Sally Morrow says:

    From my collection of yellowing quotes of Marty – taken from his keynote address to the Feldenkrais Guild in 1993: “We have to see where our own way of beholding things masquerades as the given organization of the world.” “If you bring your exploratory capacities with your confusion to the person they will know that they have come to the right place – they feel like ‘somebody finally felt me’

  23. fdnj says:

    Nice topic – respect !

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